Right Ladies,
Thank you for the input
CaroleW:
Wrote wrong birth year. You are right. His grave in Liverpool has no headstone. Gertrude use to go now and again to the cemetery and thats how I know he is the father( family talk)
Softly Softly:
Thank you that could be right.
I think the problem with the surname is how someone transcribed the written word. Also if spoken the transcriber may have written the name how they thought it should be spelt. I say this as on my fathers' side "Boler" over the years back was written "Boaler", "Bowler", "Boler". In one case of census; Parents down as Bowler and children as Boaler and the children used Boaler as their surname thereafter.
I am grateful for your inputs and will soldier on and one day resolve the mystery