Every update gets worse!
On my paternal side - all his father's family came from Berkshire (the bit that's now Oxfordshire) and his mother's family were from Sussex (on her paternal side) and Jersey (on her maternal side). The Jersey family is a bit more complicated as I think on two occasions Scots had married in to the ancestral line.
On my maternal side - all her father's family were from South Dorset / Hants border to new Forest and all her mother's family were from Yorkshire.
new "Origins"
Southeastern England & Northwestern Europe 46% (39% Paternal, 7% Maternal)
East Midlands 22% (4% Paternal, 18 % Maternal)
Northern Wales & North West England: 10% (all maternal)
Northwestern Germany: 7% (all maternal)
Leinster, Ireland: 4% (all paternal)
Devon & Somerset: 3% (all maternal)
Central Scotland & Northern Ireland: 3% (all maternal)
West Midlands: 3% (all paternal)
The Netherlands: 2% (all maternal)
So my mother's ethnicity would be
Southeastern England & Northwestern Europe 14%
East Midlands 36%
Northern Wales & North West England: 20%
Northwestern Germany: 14%
Devon & Somerset: 6%
Central Scotland & Northern Ireland: 6%
The Netherlands: 4%
SE England according to Ancestry's map does seem to cover Hants and Dorset (but 14% is low considering it should be close to 50), but no way should she have any ethnicity from east Midlands unless that is Ancestry's new name for Yorkshire. And north Wales / NW England / Germany or the Netherlands ?!
My father's ethnicity would be:
Southeastern England & Northwestern Europe 78%
East Midlands 8%
Leinster, Ireland: 8%
West Midlands: 6%
OH has a simpler ethnicity. Father's side from SW Essex and mother's side from Suffolk / Norfolk border. So how does his mother's ethnicity contribute 4% from SW Ireland?
he has 10% Netherlands from his mother's side, and 9% Denmark from his father's side. But the three closest matches with the same Denmark match are all from his mother's side.
Definite about the relationship, one is a first cousin, the second is the 1C's daughter and the third is the daughter of another first cousin.