This case shows how stupid Governments have been over the years about keeping quiet about being open about the origins of Adoptees. They know who the mother is. UNLESS THE CHILD WAS A TRUE FOUNDLING AND ABANDONED. They should be insisting that children put up for adoption have both parents named, and paternity of father proven by D.N.A. before they all allowed to be placed for adoption., to stop this from happening again in the future - AND IT WILL! unless steps are taken to stop it!
England knew for years that there were, in the region of 260 incestuous marriages of close relationships per year, before they allowed Adoptees the right to have sight of their records. This did not mean that they could, or would find the birth mother; and if they did locate her - would she give them the name of their father. Or in fact, did she know who he was? It could have been a 'One Night Stand', impregnation at a drunken party of more than one partner., or rape.
I hope this is a salutary lesson to Governments in the future, who think condemning the Victims of this appalling case, was instigated solely by poor, blinkered decisions of narrow minded Government officials passing badly thought out laws that have had this disastrous effect on two innocence Victims who had no means of knowing they were going to be embroiled in such a heinous legal wrangle they had no idea would happen to them.
The British Government knew that we had, in the region of 260 cases of incest per year by the time they changed the Adoption rules in 1975/6.
I was born in the town that my father in law lived in, at the time I was born. It is possible that he could have been my father! NOT FAR FETCHED. HE HAD LIVED ONLY STREETS AWAY FROM MY MOTHER'S ADDRESS, AND POSSSIBLY WENT TO THE SAME SCHOOL AS HER.
He and his father moved 40 miles south, after the death of his mother...into the same district that I had been adopted into!
In retrospect, and after I was told about my adoption....I still had no idea where I had been born, and so was completely 'In the dark' that I could have been dating my half-brother! The differences in our religion bore no help or assistance that we were, or not related, as it was changed at the time of adoption, so that this wouldn't have given me any hint that we 'could' have been siblings. Facts can be far stranger than fictions.
We need more discussions and programmes of complexity of relationships in our present loose moralled, (and the need for instant gratification), world that we are living in; where lust, 'one night stands' and where any and every emotional feeling should be expressed and explored, without fear of consequence, needs to be highlighted and discussed, in a more open and adult manner to advise, instruct and warn our young, and not so young, of the dangers of creating new life without thinking of what the 'knock on effects' that this could, and can happen, as the result a night of passion or lust, without properly thinking it through in a responsible and adult manner.
