Hi everyone,
Thank you for all suggestions.
So update: I have done the colour coding for most matches. These form an integrated group all on the Mother’s side.
I have made a comprehensive pedigree document for this Mother’s line.
I have also done similar for the man she eventually married and I have followed the children from that union. [Where not private which is almost all] These all appear on the DNA match list for my Son-in-law and they would because they are connected to Mother.
There are 5 of them
L M N O P.
L Is female ½ cousin
M is male
N is male 1c1r or ½ 1c 638cM segs
O is male
P is male
then K is male 1C2R or ½ 1C1R 199cM Segs.
K has to be the son of one of the above men.

I know their names as I have two sources listing them.
No1. They are on Mabel’s grave
[and that was not erected till 1995 by another family member. She is connected to P]
No 2. it’s on a Geneanet family account for someone I have no way of connecting but that also has the children of the stepmother .
That is as far as records allow me to search.
I have also been able to run pro tools cluster on the s-i-l’s matches on ancestry. I have isolated two groups. Neither are big. The first has 7members. I have looked at those and tried to work out what the cM indicates. One thing is that they all appear to be related in one way or another. But this 7x7 group has grey connections to persons from the groups directly above and below. This looks like overlap – would that be correct. I do not have that on my own clusters.
The second is smaller with 4 members which give a block 4x4 and has similar grey connections above and below.
7x7 cM and relationships
cM values for 7x7 cluster
A. 268cM 14 segs longest 83cm;
B. 193 cM 7 segs longest 51cM;
C 265 cM 12 segs longest 60cM;
D 163cM 6 segs longest 57cM;
E 161cM 10 segs longest 44 cM ;
F 132 cM 4 segs longest 98cM;
G 130 cM 10 segs. longest 25cM
Hope some of the above makes sense. I have included the longest segs as I have read that this is important information.
hope you can make some sense of all above and thanks again for reading .
Essnell.