DNA shared matches verses paper trail.

[c more]

Thank you every one for the messages and advice. 
Yes Galium the one that went to Canada has the same birth date as the one that disappeared  from London around 1892 but the birth year is different. That is one of the main paper trail reasons i think i have the correct man.  Cannot find a marriage for them and cannot find them on shipping records. Census records info differs one census to the next.  My mum has multiple DNA matches via 2 of their children that i have been able to connect but i still have 4 second cousin DNA matches in this cluster that i cannot connect. Honestly this family is so messy.
Skeleton in every cupboard.
DNA is an amazing thing and i would not have known any of this except for mums DNA test.


 

[Glen in Tinsel Kni]

I have several paternal relatives who have taken DNA tests but why they did is a mystery. They've copied other trees that follow the paper trail and ignore their results completely. None of the trees match mine as it is DNA based. The '10 people can't be wrong' mindset is impossible to overcome when they won't use their results or do any grouping or research but simply copy other trees.

[Galium]

2 of hers fathers 1st cousins left families in England and moved over seas. 1 to Canada around 1892 and 1 to Australia between 1923-1928, changing their names on the way and then starting new families.

Are you saying that both cousins left children behind in England?  Do you have any matches that you know are descended from these children?  If you do, they'll be quite close matches with any that are descended from the second families, which Pro Tools will show you.

Any especially close matches with those you know are descended from one of the second families would be worth looking at, even if they don't have trees, if you haven't done this already.

[Wexflyer]

Umn... all this talk of DNA, paper trails, etc. etc.

No one has even mentioned the word bigamy. Isn't that what this is all about? Old fashioned bigamy?