I am so upset .....

[Biggles50]

Hi Everyone

Did the  OP say whether her tree was Public or Private.   Maybe it is public and she did this unknowingly.

Question: when first setting up a tree is is initially Public by default?   

Essnell

By default Ancestry trees are Public and Searchable.

They are supposedly only Editable by people given such rights by the Account Holder.

[Gadget]

Hi Everyone

Did the  OP say whether her tree was Public or Private.   Maybe it is public and she did this unknowingly.

Question: when first setting up a tree is is initially Public by default?   

Essnell

This was covered in the first page of replies.

[Essnell]

Hi Gadget, and everyone else, 

Sorry about the double asking.. I did look through before questioning but missed it in the middle of the first posting.

In that case there is not much Helen can do about this.  Except make her tree as previously said  PRIVATE.
Better late than never. 

Another suggestion is to acquire ones own tree builder. There are several out there,. and not put every thing up on whatever search engine you choose to pay for.   I think this has already been mentioned but it is worth considering.  Two I know of  are Family Tree Builder and this one Gramps an open source program by Ubuntu.  It works on any system.

Essnell

Ps;  Just looked up where to get Gramps  :  Here:  https://gramps-project.org   Take a look at what it does.  Essnell 

[George E. H. Haydock]

   My family tree is open Slater, If It helps  who ever to find their family's  blood lines, So b it,
  unless they have consent, From all their Ancestral family to keep it secret ??
     Cheers George.

[4b2]

  I think this has already been mentioned but it is worth considering.  Two I know of  are Family Tree Builder and this one Gramps an open source program by Ubuntu.  It works on any system.



Ps;  Just looked up where to get Gramps  :  Here:  https://gramps-project.org   Take a look at what it does.  Essnell

I've been using GRAMPS since 2009. You'll never need to use anything else. It has some many ways to store info and it's sourcing is excellent. You can make much more detailed reports than on Ancestry, which is fairly basic. It's not actually developed by Ubuntu.

On the main topic. It always surprises me that there are people who scrabble around others' trees, sucking in 1,000s and 10,000s of collateral relatives. Yet if you contact them they often don't reply. It doesn't make any sense to me. There are always enough dead-ends to occupy yourself. Then the lives of siblings. It doesn't make much sense to me to blast through levels of cousins. But I think many people only know how to research by copying what's in public trees.

When beginning I soon found the usual situation. You may be happy to furnish your often meticulous data, but people can't be bothered to reply with a few bits of info or even a "thank you". And that a lot of my meticulous research has ended up in public trees by one way or another, very often with mistakes. So I very quickly found to keep my tree private.

It's just what is it. You don't want to have it written on your grave stone, "Was always upset about ungraceful people."

It's a simplification, but one of my main observations in life is: the punishment for good people in life is that they sometimes know bad people - while the punishment for bad people is that they will only know bad people.

I've come across a number of bad people in my life. And it used to make me very angry. But now I see that it's just the price of being alive. These things happen. And I'm lucky enough that I haven't been stuck all my life with such people.  While they have been.

[George E. H. Haydock]

  When searching ,Family ancestors ,We cannot 100% be so accurate, So when we share this
  Well meaning assumptions, we should expect others to give evidence, Of other contributors
  with knowage, Of change to your family male blood line ,As we all find too common, Due to
  large family's, Ones passing and their name, Given to another birth, (Like john B. 1280D. 1281
  then
  John B.1283 or a child Passed on birth) There name still added to a new baby, So remember
  other family members on, A different male blood line, (Same Ancestors) my help construct for
  both family trees.




          Cheers George.

[George E. H. Haydock]

   You cannot stop others from unintentionally, Seeing your family tree, That my contribute? Or identified?,
    Information reputable which fills blanks on there Ancestors tree  ,Also since Ancestry Information is now 
   big money organisation,  Selling information at cost? PS. The only tree that is free today, is growing near Were you live.

          Cheers George.
   .