A good idea to link the two threads - thank you.
Advice has been that without a name for the obituary it is hard (impossible) to search. I have looked at my father-in-law's memories and although he talks about his time as air sea rescue in Tenby in 1942 (which my brother-in-law says was a feature of the obituary) he doesn't mention any names. I have looked at his military service records which I have and, again, no names of commanding officers etc. mentioned.
So frustrating!