Wedding gift lists 1930s

[Viktoria]

I perhaps dud not explain properly, which was if a girl HAD to get married those nasty older women never let her forget that by never using her married name ,but only her maiden name ,that was what I though unkind and really cheeky and spiteful .
One”Grande Dame” pillar of the MU, was the worst offender.
The woman she so insulted was a Sunday School teacher as was her lovely daughter ,much kinder than the one who was so spiteful.
She was the local Hyacinth Bucket.
My mother in law “ Knew her when she had nowt!”
I used to pretend I did not know who she meant if ever the maiden name cropped up, “ Sorry , I don’t know who you mean, —— Oh, Mrs.——- ,why didn’t you say that at first.”
People did still use maiden names I agree ,with no malicious intent ,in our area it would be “Mary Jones,  as was, ‘er who married Timmy Smith “ .

Viktoria.

[chempat]

we went to Brown's in Chester and bought a new design by Royal Doulton, MorningStar. It was about half the price of their usual lines, and was aimed at young marrieds. We managed to buy a service for 12, tea service for 12, 2 tureens and 2 larger serving platters, plus sugar bowl, milk jug and 2 gravy bowls for less than mum-i-l had offered.

We had coffee cups in Morning Star on our list (1970's).  Not tiny coffee cups, but a reasonable size.  On Saturday we had a celebration in the garden and used the Morning Star cups, amongst others, to serve the afternoon tea in.  In fact, there were also my grandparents wedding (1913) teaset cups, saucers and plates available, but quite a few people wanted mugs as they had 'funny' tea e.g. Rooibos from a teabag so a teacup was a little small for that.

[louisa maud]

Heirlooms Chempat 1913, you must have looked after them well

LM

[Top-of-the-hill]

  Teacups seem to be too small for modern usage; they need to be used with a teapot, so they can be refilled. I discovered this when I thought I should really use my display china - they really don't work with a teabag!
   Modern mugs are so pretty and some even come with a saucer.

[coombs]

I perhaps dud not explain properly, which was if a girl HAD to get married those nasty older women never let her forget that by never using her married name ,but only her maiden name ,that was what I though unkind and really cheeky and spiteful .
One”Grande Dame” pillar of the MU, was the worst offender.
The woman she so insulted was a Sunday School teacher as was her lovely daughter ,much kinder than the one who was so spiteful.
She was the local Hyacinth Bucket.
My mother in law “ Knew her when she had nowt!”
I used to pretend I did not know who she meant if ever the maiden name cropped up, “ Sorry , I don’t know who you mean, —— Oh, Mrs.——- ,why didn’t you say that at first.”
People did still use maiden names I agree ,with no malicious intent ,in our area it would be “Mary Jones,  as was, ‘er who married Timmy Smith “ .

Viktoria.

As we know, bridal pregnancies was very, very common. But still probably did get some stigma as well. Some wed early in pregnancy and others wed quite a way into pregnancy. Makes me wonder if the mother in laws or others still referred to them by their maiden names.

[chempat]

Heirlooms Chempat 1913, you must have looked after them well

LM

Only got them about 10 years ago - my grandmother lived with an uncle, the uncle had no children, I got the cups.

[Rena]

My late father voiced his scorn at the then modern fashion of giving their friends a list of wedding gifts they would like.  Then disbelieve a decade or so later when a pal had gone into a large store, together with a store assistant, had chosen the gifts she would like and the assistant made a note of the items that would be ticked off every time a guest bought something from the list.

I think he'd forgotten that he and my mother used to regale us with the time they received five toast racks as wedding presents :-)

[DianaCanada]

I perhaps dud not explain properly, which was if a girl HAD to get married those nasty older women never let her forget that by never using her married name ,but only her maiden name ,that was what I though unkind and really cheeky and spiteful .
One”Grande Dame” pillar of the MU, was the worst offender.
The woman she so insulted was a Sunday School teacher as was her lovely daughter ,much kinder than the one who was so spiteful.
She was the local Hyacinth Bucket.
My mother in law “ Knew her when she had nowt!”
I used to pretend I did not know who she meant if ever the maiden name cropped up, “ Sorry , I don’t know who you mean, —— Oh, Mrs.——- ,why didn’t you say that at first.”
People did still use maiden names I agree ,with no malicious intent ,in our area it would be “Mary Jones,  as was, ‘er who married Timmy Smith “ .

Viktoria.

Wonder how they referred to the husbands of these “shamed” married women.  After all, it takes two to tango.  Am so happy to live now, even though sexism is alive and well, it is not as bad as it used to be.

[ThrelfallYorky]

When we married, my slightly older friend, who had married about  four years before, and had two lovely little girls, and lived 40 miles away, bought an "Ali Baba" style laundry basket, and each week when she went shopping, bought one or two small but useful items to pop in it. She was hard up at the time, but also recently enough married to recall the little things - dusters, draining rack, tea towels, peg bag and (wooden) clothes pegs, etc. Really thoughtful. She lugged it in when she arrived before me got our house, prior to marriage, from her little car.
-She included two heavy glass ashtrays. When I thanked her, as said neither of us ever smoked, and she replied she did, and would visit, and also that they could be handy to throw at each other at times!
Still got those unused ashtrays, under small plant pots in the back porch - and oh, I do miss my friend who died three years back!
TY