Unusual description of a wife's occupation

[louisa maud]

I agree Carol

When I got married almost 59 years ago I promised  to  "love honour and obey", don't know about the obey bit,!!!! ,   should be "love honour and compromise"

LM

[Rena]

I agree Carol

When I got married almost 59 years ago I promised  to  "love honour and obey", don't know about the obey bit,!!!! ,   should be "love honour and compromise"

LM

 

[BumbleB]

I can't remember whether I agreed to obey "he who would like to be obeyed, but very rarely is" back in 1964!    Is/was that phrase part of Register Office marriage dialogue? 

Whatever, we have always worked as a partnership. 

[louisa maud]

I have a feeling  I had a choice but not 100% sure, I suppose it had always been said in general in the past so I thought I would stay with it, yes, compromise is the word, wonder what my OH   would say

LM

[Treetotal]

I promised to "Love, Honour and Obey" 53 years ago....not sure that I kept to the obey bit  that should be changed to Respect.
I don't think Royalty have the word obey in their vows.
Carol

[Pennines]

By coincidence, when I retired from full time employment, I took a part time job with 'Relate', the Marriage Guidance Charity.

I was in the office (not a counsellor!) -- but one of the things I picked up, was that a successful relationship was based on 'Learning to live with Differences' -- which seems so obvious really.

I suppose if couples cannot put up with the differences they have - the relationship will fall down.

(I never knew we had a choice about the word 'obey' in the marriage service. I've never thought about it before.)

[BumbleB]

I was in the office (not a counsellor!) -- but one of the things I picked up, was that a successful relationship was based on 'Learning to live with Differences' -- which seems so obvious really.

I suppose if couples cannot put up with the differences they have - the relationship will fall down.

Absolutely 

[louisa maud]

I was no doubt  soppy and in love ,
LM

[coombs]

I have someone in my tree described as an imbecile.  He goes through the census described thus but is also employed as a farm labourer.  So my guess is that he couldn’t have been too afflicted even if he was only carrying out very menial tasks. He lives with his parents but I lose track of him in 1891, I’ve always hoped that he didn’t end up locked away somewhere 

I had a work colleague who was deprived of oxygen at birth and had intellectual disability but could do cleaning and other menial tasks. His mind was often not on the job and he was easily distracted. In the 1800s he would be described as perhaps a "moron" before the term became an insult. Or said to be "a bit simple". He also used to grab people by the arm a lot and embrace people by hugging them or touching and stroking their face.