Just to add- I can confirm that the ''Lillie Pilcher'' and ''A E Pilcher'' were Letty and little Alfred, so thank you for finding it lisaThe couple they're boarding with: Charles T Dalby and Eliza Dalby are related to Letty, Eliza Dalby (Eliza Todd) is Letty's cousin, so it's definitely them
Just found this, wondering if it could be Judith, she's in a workhouse in Elham: Julia Ann Pitcher b. 1839 field worker b. Ashford, kent Her birth date is a little off and so is her birth place, but could be her...