Do you have the marriage certificate as that may name the father
There is this record, not sure if it is 'your' Barney Lincolnshire Monumental Inscriptions - Market Rasen Old CemeteryBernard Deary, age 71, year of birth 1815. Death date: 1st June 1886.Husband of Elizabeth. Then this possible baptism:Bernard Deary baptised 8th March 1818 Foulsham, NorfolkFather Bernard Deary, a drover and mother Ann(1881 Census Barnett says he was born in Norwich)