Help with Marriage

[minniehaha]

PM sent requesting known information.....

Minniehaha.

[SelDen]

It might pay to think about why the marriage of living persons is being sought, and about the right of those persons to privacy. It is relatively straightforward to openly contact living people, if there is a legitimate reason to do so, particularly within the age range mentioned, and particularly as it seems either they or people close to them have a social media presence.

[Janette]

It might pay to think about why the marriage of living persons is being sought, and about the right of those persons to privacy. It is relatively straightforward to openly contact living people, if there is a legitimate reason to do so, particularly within the age range mentioned, and particularly as it seems either they or people close to them have a social media presence.

SelDen I don't think it is up to us to be judge and jury.If the information is passed by PM I can't see a problem.

Cheers Janette

[SelDen]

Each of us has a responsibility to treat information about other people with basic respect.

If the original request was consistent with the supposed purpose and ethos of Rootschat it would not need to be done by PM.

Anonymous requests for personal information about living people raise immediate red flags with me.

I think the time has come for me to call it a day with Rootschat.

[foundblue]

It appears I may have given offence by my request for help.  My reason for asking for people to pm me was because I didn't want to clutter up the thread with a long complicated post and I didn't want to put very personal information about myself in the public domain. I simply wanted to know if records exist in the public domain relating to modern day events so I can get the information I need.  One person has very kindly pointed my to public records that contain the information I am looking for.   

Many thanks to those who have helped me and apologies to anyone i have angered.

Nick

[spades]

Hi Nick, and a belated welcome to RootsChat

In my opinion you have managed this sensitive inquiry with tact and caution and made every effort to maintain personal privacy. Clearly a very well considered first topic, congratulations.

I'm pleased you have been given a lead (from a very experienced and supportive RootsChatter, I might add) and I hope that it results in you making contact with the subjects of your topic.

If you do make contact we'd love to know.

Please feel free to post further topics on the New Zealand Board - we like the challenge and the opportunity to help!

Spades
Moderator.

[Janette]

Nick,
as Spades our lovely moderator has said you handled your request beautifully,don't feel bad,you have done well
Some folk seem to poke their head in the door just to criticize without being useful but I guess it takes all sorts 

Cheers Janette

[minniehaha]

Further to reply #9, Nick has sent me a PM expanding on his request and I have said I will try to help him.

I also told him that he had not caused any offence and had handled the situation with care and delicacy.


Minniehaha.

[foundblue]

Thanks to the Rootschat New Zealand group I have the answer I was looking for.   I did want to say a special thanks to Kentishkiwi for reminding me how useful wills can be and pointing me to archway archives - what a fantastic resource.

And also to minniehaha who has spent a great deal of time researching my request and has found the answers for me by thinking outside the box.   The family I am looking for is in Australia having moved on from NZ so I can now write to my new found cousins and hopefully solve the mystery in my now rapidly growing family tree.

Thanks very much indeed.

Nick