What would you do?

[Viktoria]

Best of luck to you in this very caring venture.
Be advised by those who know her well, ie the carers and staff and go slowly.
A whole new interesting phase of your life could be opening up to you as well as your relative.
Sincere good wishes.
You know, you really ought to write down the whole experience,from finding 
your relative, the background etc,first meeting and thereafter.
It will be an enthralling read.
I can see it being a good T. V. Programme, even a film.
Much better than the tripe served up regularly.
Go on, do it!
Viktoria.

[River Tyne Lass]

I too wish you all the best with this.

I think what you are doing might well inspire other people in the same situation.

Whatever the outcome at least now you will not find yourself if the position of thinking one day "if only .." when considering a chance that was lost.  How many of us wish we could turn back the clock to have a missed out on contact or conversation.

Well done on your courage and sensitivity in how you are proceeding with this!  Please do let us know how things turn out further along the line.  I really do think there will be others in your situation and I think your thread  might be quite inspiring for them. 

[matt94]

An update for those interested:

I sent a letter to my aunt in mid-January along with a covering letter to the care organisation that manages the home.

I received an e-mail from the management of the home last week to thank me for my letter and say they were planning on broaching the subject with my aunt and showing her the letter last week. Not heard back since but they did say it could take some time.

One slight twist in the tale is that she was referred to as Mrs Smith* rather than her birth name, Jane Jones*. Although I had seen on Electoral Registers that up to 2005 she had been Jane Jones and since 2006 she was Jane Smith, I assumed that since I didn’t find a marriage online, she wasn’t married.

I went to London today to search the GRO marriage indexes 2006-2019 and there’s no marriage between a Jane Jones and a Mr Smith, so I’m none the wiser as to how she became Mrs Smith!

Will update when/if I hear more.

Thanks for all your support.
Matt

*not her actual name(s)

[iluleah]

Thanks for the update..you have done what you can and hopefully you will hear back once they can speak with your aunt ...so a waiting game...........best wishes for the outcome you want