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Re: coping with finding out sad things
« Reply #18 on: Wednesday 21 August 19 19:41 BST (UK) »
"Billy is buried in New mexico"

Were the family living in New Mexico when the tragedy occurred?

You may find his 'burial' there is a memorial?

Do you know why he was in San Diego if the family were in New Mexico?

Annie
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Re: coping with finding out sad things
« Reply #19 on: Wednesday 21 August 19 19:43 BST (UK) »
I am not so sure.All i know is he died in San diego and was buried New mexico.This grave doesnt look like i remember from my grandads photo but i could be wrong or like you said it could be a memorial.

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« Reply #20 on: Wednesday 21 August 19 19:47 BST (UK) »
I am not sure why he was in San diego.Originally he had emigrated with his aunt and grandfather and grandmother at age 7.to New york.Infact i am not sure of why they went at all in the first place.Also his other aunt lived there but must have migrated separately as she isnt on the ships list.Both aunts lived in Long beach until their death.

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Re: coping with finding out sad things
« Reply #21 on: Wednesday 21 August 19 20:01 BST (UK) »
As with many things in Family history research, you may never really find out the reasons behind what happened.

I'm sure we all share the sense of frustration that brings.

But I think the suggestion from Panda44 of planting a Rose so that you can think of those who've gone, and remember them quietly, and acknowledge them, is a very good idea.

You will know that no-one is gone whilst someone remembers them. 

and you are doing this on behalf of your uncle, and also acknowledging the distress your grandfather must have felt.

Added:  I have a photograph of my great grandmother, with her husband and children, back in about 1895.  They had lost two children in a month very shortly before.  And I can see it, in her face.  Bless her and them
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Re: coping with finding out sad things
« Reply #22 on: Wednesday 21 August 19 20:11 BST (UK) »
It's possible the San Diego MI is a memorial as his name isn't on this list?

http://www.interment.net/data/us/ca/sandiego/mthope/index.htm

An email would hopefully confirm.

Annie
South Uist, Inverness-shire, Scotland:- Bowie, Campbell, Cumming, Currie

Ireland:- Cullen, Flannigan (Derry), Donahoe/Donaghue (variants) (Cork), McCrate (Tipperary), Mellon, Tol(l)and (Donegal & Tyrone)

Newcastle-on-Tyne/Durham (Northumberland):- Harrison, Jude, Kemp, Lunn, Mellon, Robson, Stirling

Kettering, Northampton:- MacKinnon

Canada:- Callaghan, Cumming, MacPhee

"OLD GENEALOGISTS NEVER DIE - THEY JUST LOSE THEIR CENSUS"

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Re: coping with finding out sad things
« Reply #23 on: Wednesday 21 August 19 21:09 BST (UK) »
i cant find him on the ssdi either.anywhere! :-[ There must be a death certificate somewhere. :-\

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« Reply #24 on: Wednesday 21 August 19 21:22 BST (UK) »
Not all records are online but there are also different laws for different states etc.

This might be useful;

https://www.cdph.ca.gov/Programs/CHSI/pages/vital-records.aspx


Annie
South Uist, Inverness-shire, Scotland:- Bowie, Campbell, Cumming, Currie

Ireland:- Cullen, Flannigan (Derry), Donahoe/Donaghue (variants) (Cork), McCrate (Tipperary), Mellon, Tol(l)and (Donegal & Tyrone)

Newcastle-on-Tyne/Durham (Northumberland):- Harrison, Jude, Kemp, Lunn, Mellon, Robson, Stirling

Kettering, Northampton:- MacKinnon

Canada:- Callaghan, Cumming, MacPhee

"OLD GENEALOGISTS NEVER DIE - THEY JUST LOSE THEIR CENSUS"

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Re: coping with finding out sad things
« Reply #25 on: Wednesday 21 August 19 21:41 BST (UK) »
It's possible the San Diego MI is a memorial as his name isn't on this list?

http://www.interment.net/data/us/ca/sandiego/mthope/index.htm

An email would hopefully confirm.

Just in case you missed the info. on the site (link above)...

"This is not a complete listing of burials! The records below were provided by contributors to Cemetery Records Online. Last edited Jun 12, 2006. Total records = 506"

Annie
South Uist, Inverness-shire, Scotland:- Bowie, Campbell, Cumming, Currie

Ireland:- Cullen, Flannigan (Derry), Donahoe/Donaghue (variants) (Cork), McCrate (Tipperary), Mellon, Tol(l)and (Donegal & Tyrone)

Newcastle-on-Tyne/Durham (Northumberland):- Harrison, Jude, Kemp, Lunn, Mellon, Robson, Stirling

Kettering, Northampton:- MacKinnon

Canada:- Callaghan, Cumming, MacPhee

"OLD GENEALOGISTS NEVER DIE - THEY JUST LOSE THEIR CENSUS"

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Re: coping with finding out sad things
« Reply #26 on: Thursday 22 August 19 06:50 BST (UK) »
Just to say that he is in a tree on Ancestry - the tree owner is Canadian, and there are many photos of the ancestors.