Ancestry - lack of replies

[groom]

This comes up on a lot of different forums and people are disappointed with the lack of response. You have to remember that Ancestry has a lot of free weekends, so people may have used that to build a tree and then never looked at it again. Also, trees stay on there when your subscription lapses, so unless there is evidence of recent log in, some of those people may even have died.

[pharmaT]

I don't bother messaging any more.  I find even those who show up as signing in daily don't reply so a waste of time.

[Jed59]

well I cant see the point of  joining something like ancs   and then , when someone   says they think you might have a link somewhere,or whatever. dont bother to reply.
Suppose it could be worse...  heard about someone who found a living rellie,  sent a nice letter with proofs..  got a reply saying "Please do not contact  us again. we cannot possibly be related, our social spheres are vastly different"
I'd  have replied  once saying.. does this mean we're not exchanging Christmas cards then?

[MiniCooperS]

Thank you so much for the replies. I feel better now! I get really excited when I find connections but I guess not everyone feels the same. Shame really. One I have messaged a couple of times has my late father in their tree. Still shows no interest despite I see they have logged in. Thank you for welcoming me to the forum.

[Kimbrey]

I have a match "1st - 2nd cousin"  I knew who it was by the first name although I did not recognize her married name and she was in Aus,she is a lot younger than me
I waited to see if she would contact me,when she did not I contacted her.
The reply came straight away "g,,,g.. I thought you would be dead by now"

Not sure why she made that assumption as her mother,my aunt,lived to be 100!!

Her daughter bought her the kit as a Christmas gift,She has no tree and currently has no time to pursue things further.

Kim

[diplodicus]

well I cant see the point of  joining something like ancs   

We need to bear in mind that a lot of people take the test who aren't members and are unlikely to be (including both my offspring and one first cousin!!!).

[Nova67]

On a nicer note, tomorrow I am meeting my 5th cousin for the first time for lunch. She is very excited as I am her only known family member outside her immediate family here, having emigrated from England.
I wrote to someone a year ago in response to a comment made on Ancestry. They DNA tested following this and now we exchange regular correspondence and gifts.
Makes up for some of the disappointment.

[BumbleB]

Have a brilliant time, Nova67 

[Nova67]

Thank you. Shall do.