Should I just bin all my reserach and forget about it?

[Caw1]

Pharma T

So glad to see you back, WELCOME back to RC... you know where your friends are!

I'd join you at the pub but you're a long way off for me unless you travel to your MiL which is a lot nearer!

Don't give up, carry on, perhaps have a break over Christmas and come back refreshed in the NY.

Caroline
X

[groom]

I am coming to see you xxx we need to go out on the town.. Now I have heard there is a good Pub opened up today   and if you search these pages you will find it

     

xin

[PrawnCocktail]

I am coming to see you xxx we need to go out on the town.. Now I have heard there is a good Pub opened up today   and if you search these pages you will find it

     

xin

Rootschat Arms
Mince pies, beer, wine, spirits - and no hangover or enlarged waistlines! Might drop by myself! 


https://www.rootschat.com/forum/index.php?topic=804867.msg6632712

[Rosinish]

pharmaT,

I have to say, some of the comments on here are amazing & I had a few tears reading them!!!

Too many to mention but please, please take the advice from Igor!!!

I won't go into things here but at the end of last yr I had a similar thing going on (in a different context & circumstance) but the whole thing 'got to me' to the point I lost all interest in my most important hobby (genealogy), nothing to do with the root problem, (no pun intended)!

I received a message from RC via fb.
A few 'RC friends' had been concerned about my absence (some of who have posted on this thread) & believe me, that was my turning point, knowing people were genuinely concerned although they didn't know my reason as I just disappeared from the 'outside world' & the place I spent most of my spare time (RC).
I was very low, had given up virtually everything & mentally I was feeling just that 'worthless'!!!

Those few kind words made such a huge difference as my own problem had now basically became theirs, the fact people noticed I wasn't around.
I realised there are genuine people out there & didn't want them worrying & having by that time, forgot my password...yes, a password I'd used for donkeys yrs but my mind was blank!

I got it all sorted with Sarah, logged back in & so glad I did as RC is where I'm most happy.

Please take heed of peoples words, they're meaningful & put the obnoxious person you were dealing with out of your head as (s)/he doesn't affect your daily life the way mine was & still is!

Can I just ask, is the person who commented on your tree, connected/related to your tree?
If so, have they picked out faults/errors or what, apart from not having ‘handled’ primary records?

Keep up your great work & feel very, very proud your dau has her roots at heart at such a young age (as I was too) & feel proud she has the knowledge ‘£ doesn’t grow on trees’ i.e. accepting things are tight, how very caring it is of her to have that attitude when so much is geared round ‘named’ clothes, perfumes etc.
Your dau shows her love & more importantly, understands, simply with those words “wasn't going to ask me as she knew money was tight”.

Please read over Igor’s words again & again as I have already learned a lot from them!

Thank you Igor!!!

Annie

[louisa maud]

None of us should just give up after working for years to find our roots, no matter how sad the results are and boy we all find unbelievable things..

I found out some really sad things awhile ago but I told myself it is history and we cannot change it, thank God these things don't happen so much now.

Rootschat is like a club, we all have the same interest and we all help each other, to be honest I think I would feel a bit lost without it now

Pharma, you know you have friends on here that will  help  you through

Best regards

Louisa Maud


 Have a rest yes but don't give up completely

[IgorStrav]

Thank you to everyone who was kind about what I said.

I was wrong to say to PharmaT that she should decide to stop feeding things that happen as proof into her “not very clever and a bit worthless” box.

It’s difficult to simply tell yourself to stop doing something you may have been doing for years.

But what you can do very simply IS NOTICE WHAT YOURE DOING.

Believe me, just noticing yourself feeding your “box” is often enough.

I speak from experience.

[ozlady]

So what am I supposed to do? Fly to the UK from Australia every time I need a cert? Demand to see parish registers (if I can track them down)!! In past years I have been lucky enough to see original parish registers, though few and far between!!! I doubt whether I will ever get back to the UK again, so do I give up on my research? NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!


Stick with it Pharma, my love. Do what you love to do and ignore the miserable
 comments.

[Viktoria]

On the basis that it is necessary to handle records etc a lot of what we all do could be so classed.
We do the best we can with what is available,you are honest about it and seem not to have made wild  assumptions,so what is their problem?
The main thing pharma is THEY have the problem,don’t let them shift it on to you.Carry on regardless,and don’t invite them to our pub,they would not be welcome.(And I am not the name over the door!)
You have not said what we can get for you from the bar when you arrive?
Cheerio.
Viktoria.

[Guy Etchells]

So what am I supposed to do? Fly to the UK from Australia every time I need a cert? Demand to see parish registers (if I can track them down)!! In past years I have been lucky enough to see original parish registers, though few and far between!!! I doubt whether I will ever get back to the UK again, so do I give up on my research? NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!


Stick with it Pharma, my love. Do what you love to do and ignore the miserable
 comments.

Do what Pharma indicated she does in her first post on this thread-
“When I only have one piece of evidence for something I have made a point of annotating my tree that there is limited evidence.” she then goes on to say she viewed microfilmed copies of the original registers, many of these are now available online or barring that at your local LDS Family History Center (though obviously in Australia local may still be many miles away).
In addition look for additional sources to back up your assumptions as Pharma also noted she does.

The main thing is to be aware of the limitations of the records available, understand that virtually all GRO certificates are transcripts of transcripts (a few recent ones are not). Be aware census records are transcripts (except the 1911) and even they are compiled from heresay evidence.
We as researchers must try to use as many independent sources as possible to confirm every fact only then can we be proud of our efforts as Pharma should be of hers.

Pharma have confidence in yourself you have by the sound of it constructed the best possible tree you can; have confidence in what you have achieved.
Cheers
Guy