Found father through AncestryDNA, if/how to approach DNA match and family?

[Mart 'n' Al]

amon000, I think the right approach is try and imagine yourself if the roles were reversed.  Try and imagine how you would feel at this sort of unexpected news.  I know I don't have any unknown offspring, so any newcomer to my extended family would be welcome as long as we had the same life values and ideals.

Martin

[sarah]

I have just edited this topic because some unpleasant things had been said and this had sent the thread off topic. I am very sorry that a new member has not had the usual friendly welcome from everyone.

I hope that the thread can now continue to helpful to Amanda and everyone else who is following with interest.

Regards

Sarah

[amon000]

Hello again Martin,

You are right, I have certainly kept this at the forefront of my mind - I recall another post to this thread saying a similar thing before I made contact. It is such a sensitive subject but one which many of us are faced with, it seems. I suppose as more people do the test, so more incidences of this will come to light (though not with you ).

Many thanks. 

[amon000]

Hello all,

Just a quick update to say all is well and that one of my half siblings and I have now met. A DNA test was done to confirm our suspicions (based on my knowledge of events) and it was as I suspected. Consequently, he and my father’s side of the family have been very welcoming and, for those I haven’t yet met, have been kind enough to make contact with me, make available many photographs and offer to fill in any blanks as regards questions I may have. I will soon meet another of my half siblings and am very much looking forward to that. It is all early days but I feel very positive and (oddly) complete now that I know more about the wider family. I only say oddly because I have only met one of them at this stage; we are taking things slowly, understandably after this revelation!

Anyway, all told so far, I think that this experience has turned out successfully so I just wanted to let you all know.

Many thanks for all your help and your input in getting this far!

[dowdstree]

I am so happy for you and wish you many years of getting to know your siblings and new family.

As you say take things slowly and carefully as it is a big step all round. Nothing should be rushed.

Good luck for the future

Dorrie

[amon000]

Thank you Dorrie 😄

[trish1120]

How wonderful for you that things have turned out so positively. Good luck for the future

[amon000]

Thank you trish1120 😄

[Billyblue]

Hello all,

Just a quick update to say all is well and that one of my half siblings and I have now met. A DNA test was done to confirm our suspicions (based on my knowledge of events) and it was as I suspected. Consequently, he and my father’s side of the family have been very welcoming and, for those I haven’t yet met, have been kind enough to make contact with me, make available many photographs and offer to fill in any blanks as regards questions I may have. I will soon meet another of my half siblings and am very much looking forward to that. It is all early days but I feel very positive and (oddly) complete now that I know more about the wider family. I only say oddly because I have only met one of them at this stage; we are taking things slowly, understandably after this revelation!

Anyway, all told so far, I think that this experience has turned out successfully so I just wanted to let you all know.
Many thanks for all your help and your input in getting this far!

Fantastic!!   SO pleased for you      

Dawn M