OK ignore the 1881 I supplied for Henry, in 1871 census they were with the Bowers family in Horsham Village, this is I believe Violetta in 1861 census:-
William Bowers 39 occ Licenced Hawker
Myra 39
Rhoda 17 mmn James
Vitella 16 registered June qtr 1845 as Violette Bowers Guildford v04 page 164 mmn James
Robert 13
John 11
William 9
Eliza 6
Selby 4
Henry 2
Walter 3 months
Residing Gravel Pits, Fairmile, Cobham, Surrey
Census ref RG09/420/126/31
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