I have the burial record and the location of the grave, it says 'private burial' and gives a code for location but no, I guess it doesn't actually say a headstone - do you think I should do that first? I don't know what 'private burial' means in relation to anything else. It says he's buried in a purchased grave, so not scattered ashes I don't think. He was Catholic I think and it says he's buried in the church area of the burial ground with service performed by Father D Smith. Maybe I should email the cemetery office first, do you think?