Hello Pam
So you haven't got the marriage cert then, only what was in the Parish records ......... I can think of far worse ways to spend £7-00 if you have someone in the UK to get it for you
I see that Charlotte lived to the age of 83 (died 1899) and her age in 1861 was 44 and in 1881 was 64 which is consistent with someone born 1816........I tried to find her in 1871 but couldn't find her! I was curious about her lodger David Williamson (born Scotland) who was with her in 1861 (aged 61) and still there in 1881 (aged 81) even though she has moved. It appears my census provider has translated wrongly or they are missing from the census....and I haven't got access to the 1851
Personally..........I think that James the son of Charlotte Elizabeth Worwood & James Worwood is the one living with his grandparents (Charlotte's parents) at Hughes Fields, Deptford in 1841
1841
HUGHES FIELDS. ST NICHOLAS DEPTFORD, GREENWICH, KENT
JOHN WORWOOD 50 LAB Y
SARAH " 50 Y
JAMES " 5 Y
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*John Worwood & Sarah Jones having married 11th Sept 1816 at St Marys, Bermondsey (Rotherhithe)
The father of James aged 5 is probably James the son of Robert who is the brother of John.
all children of Robert & Mary Ann Worwood
ROBERT WILLIAM WORWOOD C. 1802 ROTHERHITHE
JAMES WORWOOD C. 1805 ROTHERHITHE
WILLIAM WORWOOD C. 1808 ROTHERHITHE
JOHN WORWOOD C. 1811 ROTHERHITHE
James married Amelia and was living in the area when they had their son James christened at St Marys Rotherhithe in 1827
James being a lighterman! was probably nipping back home to see his family on a regular basis (one side of the River Thames to the other!) and may have done more than just visit 
1841
YORK STREET, M.E.O.T, STEPNEY, MIDDX
JAMES WORWOOD 30 LIGHTERMAN NO
AMELIA " 33 NO
JAMES " 14 YES ........born Rotherhithe 1827.
AMELIA " 12 YES ........born St Geo in the East, Stepney 1829.
WILLIAM " 10 YES.........James William was christened 1829 St Geo
ROBERT " 8 YES
ELIZABETH " 6 YES........christened 1834 St Geo
JOHN " 5 YES........christened Dec 1836 St Geo
MARY " 2 YES.........born St Geo in the East, Stepney 1839
HENRY " 6 MONTHS YES
----------- *James Worwood married Amelia Lee on the 13th Feb 1826 at St Nicholas, Deptford Bryant
