Hi Tom
I too have a Ilay STANNERS b, 21 Aug 1772, Carriden- d, 23 Oct 1774. There is then another Elay STANNERS b, 18 Mar 1781, Carriden. Both to George Stanners and Elizabeth Leckie. They also have a son James b, 21 Oct 1787, Carriden.
This James then marries Margaret Crichton and has a son James Stenhouse, b 3 Jul 1830, St Cuthberts, E'burgh.
Depending on transcription I'm sure Ilay/Elay/Hay are one and the same.
This explains your 59 year gap. It is the same family, just different generations. It's this change of name, Stanners to Stenhouse, that's causing the problem just now.
Do you have STANNERS?
Davie
ps. just re-read original post, sorry I could have made it a bit clearer....James Stanners/Margaret Crichton's first child was Margaret Thomson Stanners but later siblings have the name Stenhouse. Any clearer??
pps. note to self don't post whilst watching football...........