Heir raising moment -spooky or what ?!?

[..claire..]

Hi,

That's a terrible attitude for a midwife to have pharmaT. It's actually really disgusting

Well, that is exactly what they were like, it was early 1997 and I suppose attitudes have changed over the years. People are more open-minded about single mums now.

[Beeonthebay]

You are right Claire but I'd still be shocked at a 12 year old having a baby,  my grand-daughter's were still out playing on bikes in the street at that age and my daughter was worried about that never mind pregnancy.

[pharmaT]

I should have pointed out that I was a lot older than 12 when the midwife said that to me. I was also married but had had to take my ring off because my hands were so badly swollen. It was also 2005 so not that long ago.

[..claire..]

It's still not a good attitude to have single, married, 12, 30 or any age, especially in childbirth, it's stressful enough.

PharmaT I hope no offence has been taken 

Claire

[pharmaT]

None from you Claire. The midwife, however caused lots of upset. She said quite a few things during my prolonged stay. I was quite ill post partum thanks to complications and a few mistakes at the hospital.  By the time I was discharged I was in the full throws of PND (not entirely due to the midwife but not exactly helped by her) and was absolutely terrified that my baby was going to be taken away from me.

[..claire..]

Thanks pharmaT, I work in a hospital and yes there are nurses with a God-like attitude, I hope you complained.

claire

[pharmaT]

Thanks pharmaT, I work in a hospital and yes there are nurses with a God-like attitude, I hope you complained.

claire

Oh no, I was terrified complaining would get me reported to social services.  Not 100% rational but I was really unwell at the time.

[groom]

What a dreadful story, PharmaT  - lets hope that she is no longer nursing. Hopefully, if she treated others in the same way, some were in a position to complain and she was disciplined. Luckily most nurses are not like her.

[..claire..]

It is a terrible story and like groom says let's hope something was done about her. Horrible woman 

claire