Have you ever..felt a little uncomfortable..

[jacquelineve]

   I have found various newspaper reports re. my ancestors...mostly not too good..but to me
quite amusing, but there was one..even though aquitted of this charge...I have'nt felt happy
passing it on to others researching this person.

Jackie

[maggbill]

What is that old phrase?  "Let sleeping dogs lie"??... it is a hard one - how do you know if people "Need" to be told?  Well unless the lack of knowledge puts them at risk......  Might be better to let them find out for themselves...??

[3sillydogs]

Sometimes its better to keep quiet and let them "stumble" across it themselves, if they don't then they'll be none the wiser.

I speak from experience on that one............

[pinefamily]

As I tell people when I am asking them questions, I am not here to judge, but to record.

[DavidG02]

Like PF , I am compiling a record not a judgement. I once put it that we don't own what our ancestors did. If we celebrate the good that they did then we also must accept the bad.

Are you reading this my precious descendants

[dowdstree]

I knew that a cousin of my late father had some major problem during WW2 but the details were never spoken about by our side of the family.

However, another direct family member who is doing a tree put the exact details on line. Not very pleasant reading or very thoughtful as there are relatives still alive who may not have known the facts.

I didn't pass this info on to anyone or put it in my tree - too terrible. Better to "let sleeping dogs lie"

Dorrie

[DavidG02]

I think if I did draw a line it would be if any living relatives were affected

[jacquelineve]

  I'm quite happy to accept all..that's life!I do think we have to be aware of others feelings, but
it's sometimes a little difficult to judge how they will feel.

I remember doing a look-up for someone that said  their ancestor was a "lawyer" when in fact his
occupation was "sawyer? and was told that their family did not belong " to this class"

Jackie

[DavidG02]

I remember doing a look-up for someone that said  their ancestor was a "lawyer" when in fact his
occupation was "sawyer? and was told that their family did not belong " to this class"

Jackie

Wasn't Inwoods of Northampton was it ? I made the same mistake for a while - transcription v prescription