Ancestry - Public Tree Members being trawled by Private Tree Members

[jaybelnz]

...I actually tend to think that's quite an enthusiastic response really!  A "wow - let's get on with it" kinda thing!   An invitation to ask your questions?? 

Sort of response you might get from a Kiwi, or Aussie,  - as a Kiwi I can see myself sending such a message!  On receiving it, I would probably be thinking -" YES - we're off"!  And with a few fist pumps thrown in!!

Jeanne
 

[kiwihalfpint]

Sort of response you might get from a Kiwi, or Aussie,  - as a Kiwi I can see myself sending such a message!  On receiving it, I would probably be thinking -" YES - we're off"!  And with a few fist pumps thrown in!!

Jeanne
 

Exactly ....it is a response I have used, and no-one I know has found it offensive ....and I have had it used to me ...  The worse I have had said to me was "Give me all you have, otherwise I will visit your relations and get it off them"

Cheers
KHP

[jaybelnz]

 . KHP,  Sounds like you might have been talking to Dick Turpin!!😄😄

Jeanne

[weste]

I can identify with the short reply because last Christmas someone contacted me for details of a relative , a wedding I think and I gave them the info and they replied saying how do you know that. Well I given info from parish records. I think what they meant was have you got any cents. So I did n't get back. I 've thought that reply may have been how they were. I will at some point send them a copy when I decide to print it off but you have to be choosy how many you print off at the archives at 60p a copy. Although a lot cheaper than a cert from the gro! This guy was an Aussie or a kiwi. Although I have Aussie and kiwi relatives and they don't come across like that. I suspect  he's a lot younger than my more direct relatives.

[jaybelnz]

To save yourself some money, and postage too, you could just email them a copy - when you're ready to of course 

Jeanne 😄

[suek2075]

Or he may be one of the jaded souls who gets hit on a lot for information and never gets anything in return, but is too kind to ignore someone.

He (or she!) may warm up once they know you're willing to exchange info rather than just gather it in.

Sue

[Beeonthebay]

As shown in the links above, this topic rears its head periodically on Rootschat. Ancestry, as well as many other family history sites (paid or free), are prone to being used by "name collectors", or by people too lazy to do their own research.
Just as several others have said, I do not put my data up (any more) for public view. Many years ago, I submitted a tree on Rootsweb; this info has now found its way into a myriad of other trees, and when I have tried to contact these people to find connections, I have received no response.
I do have a tree online, but on a site with a password protection.

I think Rootsweb is affiliated with Ancestry.  Quite recently I asked Ancestry to remove a tree from Rootsweb as it had lots of personal information from when I was foolish and naive many years ago not realising all this stuff would be freely available one day by Googling a name.  This was in the days when it was more of a sharing community of family historian's rather than the snatch and grab brigade of today.

[msr]

Messages sent yesterday all replied to, in the nicest way too.

Restores your faith, doesn't it?   

[findem]

I just got a response, that totally put me off responding...

'ok what do you want to know'!!!


I had asked if we could share notes etc... politely with a please and a thank you and if you don't mind...
to get a downright rude, sharp response like that... was ignorant..

Or is it just me .... I did reply nicely - so we will see.

short shrift as my Mom would say.

xin   

I think the problem is that when comments like that in print are read, those reading it can't know how it was meant.   Spoken, a comment like that can express many things such as a suspicious or cautious questioning remark to an enthusiastic excited 'ok what do you want to know'.

Probably best in those situations to give people the benefit of doubt.

One of things that struck me first when I emigrated out here to Australia from England was how 'laid back' people were and quite frankly I enjoyed that attitude, so perhaps the person who made that remark was just being very 'laid back'.  :