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Re: Not Sure How I Feel About This...
« Reply #18 on: Tuesday 16 June 15 12:46 BST (UK) »
I had tried to trace my late dads side of the family, with no luck at all.  I knew nothing at all about my grandparents, except my granddad died in 1934 when my dad was 17 and my grandma died in 1969.  on my dad's birth certificate, grandmas maiden name was given as Cahill, even though we had been told by my dad's 2 older sisters-whom have also passed away, and my older cousin, that her maiden name was Hornby. By chance I logged on to Ancestry one day,  and a military record popped up for my granddad, giving his next of kin as my grandma Margaret Buckley, dependants names and D.O.B. Robert Hornby Cahill 16.6.04, son then my 2 aunts and my dad.  I was shocked as nobody had ever mentioned/heard of Robert, but it turns out he is my dad's and aunts half brother-my uncle. I sent for my grandparents marriage certificate, and sure enough it's says my grandmas name at the time of marriage was Margaret Cahill-widowed, her Fathers name Robert Hornby whom she named her son after,  and she went to Cheshire from Garston in Lancs, where she lived and Robert was born, when Robert was 6yr old-she left him in Liverpool,eventually met and married my grandad and then sent for Robert whom was then aged 10. She then had my 2 aunts and my dad. My dad-the youngest joined the army when he was 17, so they all lived at the same address till then, but not once had/as anyone mentioned him....we didn't know he existed till I stumbled across the military records.  I am now trying to find out more about him, but I should imagine unlike your uncle who as made contact with you, mine would have passed away ! but hopefully, he would have married, had children and maybe if not any cousins out there, I may have cousins once removed.  I just need to see how I find out more info on Robert and how to go about checking in Garston.  Good luck with your contact, and hope all turns out well.
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Re: Not Sure How I Feel About This...
« Reply #19 on: Tuesday 16 June 15 13:34 BST (UK) »

Hi rea1 Just read your post on this thread,

Robert Hornby Cahill born 1904 Garstang Lancashire, appears to have married a Eileen Berwick in 1931 Garstang Lancashire.

Possible child born in Garstang in 1932, obviously not putting childs name up as they could still be living, but you can find this child on FreeBMD.



Lisa, I wish you well with the contact you have with your new uncle.

Its very daunting I know and leads to all sorts of feelings. Whilst researching my husbands family tree (as we didn't know anything about his maternal grandparents) we were contacted about six years ago on here (after putting posts on various sites in 2002 looking for information about his grandparents) by the granddaughter of a sister my husband never knew he had and then last year via another site we were contacted by the daughter of another sister my husband never knew he had.

My mother in law never told my husband or his brother that they had two older sisters. I think that my MIL must have suffered a great deal to have kept the birth of her girls secret all her life and I hope she is looking down on all her children knowing that they have found each other.
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Re: Not Sure How I Feel About This...
« Reply #20 on: Tuesday 16 June 15 13:40 BST (UK) »
Thanks sooo much NettieS,  will check this out :)




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« Reply #21 on: Tuesday 16 June 15 13:44 BST (UK) »
Hello, and welcome to Rootschat.

Just a bit of info you might find useful.
Robert Hornby Cahill was born in Garstang district, which is in the northern part of Lancashire (not Garston, which is in Merseyside).  1911 census shows his birthplace as Myerscough (a village near Garstang). If you don't have current access to Ancestry, you can see a transcript  on the
 familysearch.org
  website. They have his name as Robert Hormby Cahill.

Using the Lancashire BMD website
http://www.lancashirebmd.org.uk/index.php
 will show you that Robert Hornby Cahill married Eileen Berwick at Garstang in 1931.  The same site will show you that there was a Cahill child with mother's maiden name Berwick , and also a death of Robert Hornby Cahill.
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Re: Not Sure How I Feel About This...
« Reply #22 on: Tuesday 16 June 15 13:53 BST (UK) »
Thank you also for your help and info Galium,  I will check this out......great help. :)




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« Reply #23 on: Tuesday 16 June 15 13:58 BST (UK) »
Lancashire Evening Post 8 June 1935

Preston Inquest on Calder Vale Man

The Coroner (Col. H Parker) returned a verdict of misadventure at an inquest at Preston Royal Infirmary today, on Robert H Cahill (30) paper mill employee of 3 Vale Cottages, Calder Vale, who died in the Infrmary yesterday, following an operation for a hernia. Death, it was stated, was due to septicemia following the operation.

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DEATHS
CAHILL_on the 6th inst., at the Preston Royal Infirmary, Robert Hornby, the beloved husband of Eileen Cahill, aged 30 years. R.I.P.  3 Vale Terrace, Calder Vale

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Re: Not Sure How I Feel About This...
« Reply #24 on: Tuesday 16 June 15 15:00 BST (UK) »
That's brilliant Galium,  it's all falling into place now-glad I joined this site. My grandma Robert's mum, her dad is down on her marriage certificate as a paper maker, maybe that's how she met her husband.  I'll check census with address and keep you informed of my progress.
Thanks once again, would never have found this out, without help given on here. :)


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Re: Not Sure How I Feel About This...
« Reply #25 on: Thursday 18 June 15 18:18 BST (UK) »
Hi there,

Just take things slowly and see how it goes. It takes a long time for all involved to get to know each other. If you reject this meet up it could be regretted in the future. Possibly, it may not work out as expected anyway.

On a personal note I was told in my mid-teens that my dad had been married previously and had another daughter 5 years older than me. Dad had had no contact with her since she was a baby and her mother brought her up.

In the early 1980's my half sister made contact with us and as far as I was concerned it was great and we got on really well and met up and phoned each other often. However, my mother and full sister were not happy with this and made life hell for dad. ( Were they so insecure? ) The outcome was that contact with her was broken with the promise that some time in the future we would meet up again.

All our lives moved on in the next 30 years. My dad passed away in 2005 and my mum in 2010.

This was when I decided to try to find her. Tried everything (knew she had remarried but not her new surname) but no luck. To cut a long story shorter I finally discovered early in 2014 that she had passed away in 2007. Can't even begin to tell you how I felt and still do. All the feelings of a bereavement.

Please give "long lost relatives" a chance for everybodies sake.

Thanks for taking the time to read this folks and excuse me for wearing my "heart on my sleeve"

Dorrie


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Re: Not Sure How I Feel About This...
« Reply #26 on: Thursday 18 June 15 19:46 BST (UK) »
Hi,

Sometimes the saying 'Let sleeping dogs lie' is probably quite appropriate.

I and a fellow researcher into our family history found a child adopted out of the family. She is my Aunts first child, illegitimate and I suspect born at very difficult time for my Aunt, her Mother and the family as things were at that time.

My Aunts second child was also born illegitimate, but not adopted out of the family. I thought that
she might be glad to know of a half-sister, in fact possibly even pleased if we were able to find her, although she has never said as much.

Now the alarm bells ring. I wanted to pursue this as far as I can, but perhaps it is not my place to do so and would it cause more distress than happiness.

I am so glad I read this post. Thank You.