Thanks HL for doing those lookups for me, now I'm more confused than ever, I have been looking at all the info I have and cannot decide which Richard is "mine".

This is some of what I can verify through census, civil reg. certs etc.
Richard Elphick (3xgtgrandfather) born 1817 at Herstmonceaux to parents Richard Elphick, born 1785,at Herstmonceaux and Martha Cruttenden, born about 1815 at Hollington SSX. Richard(1785) died in Hawkhurst, Kent in 1869 aged 84. I have him on 41, 51 and 61 census all in Hawkhurst. Martha died in 1849 aged 53 so she only appears on 41 census.
Richard (1817) married in 1836 to Bathsheba Friend born 1815 at Hawkhurst. They came to Aus. but sadly Richard died enroute, Bathsheba and 2 sons arrived here 1841. I am unsure of how to go about finding any further info to verify who were Richard's (1785) parents, can't be 100% sure that William Elphick and Mille Marshall are the ones, although they seem most likely, however if you take into consideration of naming patterns, Mille, Mildred,Millicent do not appear in later generations, but William and Richard appear time and again! Hope someone can make sense of all this, thought maybe I'd just put it out there, sometimes another person can see something different!
Regards, Shirl.