Vectis, IF your grandparents DID marry and that the 1893 marriage is theirs, it is strange that you were told they were not married. I would also be curious to know if Nellie was a half sister. I suppose if the parents were married your grandfather would be named as the father even if he was not. Maybe in this case the family rumours may have the advantage over official certificates (as people may have known the truth) .Perhaps some DNA tests with Australian Lee descendants may give you some answers.
I am getting confused now ...
Quote from: Ruskie on Wednesday 18 June 14 00:56 BST (UK) I am getting confused now ... I have been confused for much longer .....