It is true, we either use our childhood experiences to be better or be just as bad.
My parents had lived through the great depression of the late 1920`s and early 1930`s.
Consequently they had a real fear of those conditions coming back and so Dad especially was very "frugal"---. I am not wasteful and look for bargains but I am very generous. I feel sorry for my grandchildren when they are struggling when in fact they have much much more than I ever had at their age.However society was not so mercenary in my young days and envy and "must have " were not really emotions we felt. All the glamour was in a country far away across the Atlantic and so well beyond our experience. Dad was frugal and we went without the most basic things but my word, as my friends from similar backgrounds say"W e could cook on a candle and make a meal from next to nothing". However we were never left alone,never went hungry, never dirty, and had to behave well or else we were smacked. I think it did us good to know without any doubt just what the perameters were. Mum and Dad went without just as we kids did . No drinking, both had seen what that did to families when neighbours` children went without because fathers had drunk their wages away . I truly do not think many people are really as poor as they think. They have never had to make one egg go between six people as did my mother in law`s family and she lived to well over 100. It is all comparitive. It must be hard when things like Christmas toys are advertised on T.V in your living room, months before Christmas. Can you imgine todays` children being overjoyed with a new ( made by Mum ) outfit for their doll, or a wooden garage ( made byDad) , some sweets, a brand new penny and perhaps a little colouring book.? We were and all because we only got a little something on our birthdays and something at Christmas. Ofen, dressing gowns( home made) were our presents and necessary things like slippers.But we survived.We were loved and that was the most important thing and the children who were not so well cared for get my sympathy.
We all only get one childhood and anyone who makes a child continually unhappy has a lot to answer for. It is to the great credit of those children when they show great generosity of spirit just as we`ve seen here in this topic. There that`s me all sounded out! Viktoria.