Hi Caroline - I'm sure I have been in touch with you many years ago via snail mail

I'm going back through my SELMES research now that I have discovered many East Sussex parish register images are now available online on Family Search.
Just a quick re-cap...I am descended from Jane SELMES d. of Simon SELMES & Ann nee MATSON bap. 1811 Rye, Sussex.
Simon SELMES son of Simon SELMES & Sal (AKA Sarah Ann) nee AYLWARD bap. 1781 Ewhurst, Sussex
Simon SELM(E)S son of Simon SELM(E)S & Elizabeth nee BAKER bap. March 1744/5 Sedlescombe, Sussex
SIMON SELM(E)S son of Samuel SELM(E)S & Mercy nee BAKER bap. 1717 Whatlington, Sussex
Samuel SELM(E)S probable son of David SELM(E)S & Ann nee JARVIS bap. about 1691 possible Ore [need confirmation but Ore parish registers not on Family Search]
David SELM(E)S son of David SELM(E)S & Susanna nee BAKER bap. 1658 Brightling, Sussex
David SELM(E)S and Susanna BAKER married at Salehurst, Sussex in 1652.
I have pieced together various other branches (including the Nothiam & Westfield branches) from Lewes archdeaconry Court wills and discovered that some marriages were recorded with the name SELVENS

Fortunately most of the wills were very informative naming many grandchildren and married daughter's husbands names (I am guessing you have probably already worked through these wills).
Michelle