I've read the whole thread with interest, and don't want to get into the shell shock / hero / abuser debate because although some comfort was provided to Patrick Stewart I didn't think anything was shown in enough depth to really understand his father, just to suggest some possibilities.
It was a different aspect that disturbed me, and actually made me think of Rootschat's 'no living details' policy with real gratitude. OK, his brother must have agreed to the whole programme or else wouldn't have been filmed at the end but I found something quite prurient about all the detail and debate about his mother and the birth of his elder brother out of wedlock. It all seemed a bit heartless to wash his mother's dirty linen in public as it were, and also to highlight his brother's situation in such detail, plus his paternity question,when his brother was still alive. It made me really appreciate how controlled everything is on here, with no publication of any details for someone who may be still living.
That led me on to think of something else, how far does one have to go to achieve the distance to make the switch from involvement to interest? Like most of us, I get very attached to some of my ancestors as I learn more about them, but there is that distance that protects. Trying to explain - when I found my gr.gr.grandfather didn't appear in the census because he was in jail I was intrigued, and discussed it with a fair few people. If that had been my father I've realised I would have felt very very differently. What if it had been my grandfather? How far does that distance need to go?
I hope this makes sense because I'm not finding it easy to explain but much as I love WDYTYA normally, yesterday's episode made me very uncomfortable on a lot of levels and unlike nearly all the other episodes I won't watch it for a second time.