I did think though that perhaps it wasn't an amazing mass of bad things ... probably just compared to our lives now
we couldn't imagine that many things happening and how devastating it would be but then I thought of people in my tree women widowed 3 or 4 times , husbands setting up home elsewhere, lots of dead infants people in the workhouse, suicides etc to think it maybe wasn't looked on like that in those days .. sounds harsh but hope you get what I mean?