Many thanks Janette, KHP and Lucy2,
You have all given me lots to think about. As requested further info on Sam and Elizabeth:-
Elizabeth married a sailor Samuel Jones in 1899. Sam sailed to NZ where he left his ship to join a company trading in the Southern hemisphere. He wrote to Elizabeth giving her an ultimatum, join me or I stop your money, she joined him, sailing out in 1913. Arthur Carruthers (b 1925) my cousin, visited them during WW2 when his ship visited NZ near Wellington, at a place called Lower Hutt. Arthur says Sam was quite a character. Nothing is known of them since.
Elizabeth and Sam Jones were both living at 49 Lawrence Street, Sunderland, at the time of their marriage, and there was a 10 year difference in their ages. Elizabeth Carruthers b 1872 the same year her mother died, I am thinking in childbirth or soon after from complications? Sam was born c 1862 both in Sunderland.
In the 1891 census Elizabeth is living with her brother Arthur Carruthers (my grandfather) in Wear Street and goes by the name of Elah, she was also known as Lizzie I am told. I believe the family was broken up after the death of her mother, and am still trying to find out where Elizabeth was brought up and by whom.
Your information gives me hope of finding grandchildren who may have answers to some of my questions, and maybe even a photo.
Thanks again ALL!