Thomas Stapleton (36), wife Martha (34), and children Tom (11), Everard (9), Harry (6), Ann (4) and Richard (2) arrived in 1865.
Hi again,
The following BDM NZ references are found on the BDM NZ Search website
https://www.bdmhistoricalrecords.dia.govt.nz/search/Tom STAPLETON, son of Thomas and Martha STAPLETON, may be the Tom STAPLETON who married Christina AITKEN in 1880
BDM NZ Marriages - 1880/1449 - Christina AITKEN - Tom STAPLETON
A Tom and Christina STAPLETON share the same plot at Sydenham Cemetery in Christchurch. Tom's burial notes indicate a birth year of 1852 and an arrival in NZ from England in 1864, which is fairly close to the above passenger list found by jorose.
Sydenham Cemetery - Christchurch Cemeteries Database
http://librarydata.christchurch.org.nz/Cemeteries/----
A Thomas and Christina STAPLETON had a daughter Isabella Martha STAPLETON in 1894
BDM NZ Births - 1894/5709 - STAPLETON, Isabella Martha - mother: Christina father: Thomas
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An Isabella Martha STAPLETON married a Frederick Haynes PRATT on 19 Feb 1919
BDM NZ Marriages - 1919/937 - Isabella Martha STAPLETON - Frederick Haynes PRATT
(Entering 19/2/1919 into both the "Search From" and "Search To" boxes on the BDM NZ website will give the date of the event)
The Christchurch Star of Wednesday 19 February 1919 has the following marriage notice...
PRATT - STAPLETON
Today, Frederick Haynes PRATT, a returned Anzac to Ella, daughter of Mr and Mrs T.STAPLETON [...]
cousin Chrissie WATKINS, niece Kathleen BIGGS
Scroll halfway down the page of the following link for the marriage notice snippet...
http://homepages.ihug.co.nz/~ashleigh/1870-1908/1919.February.Star.Christchurch.Snippets.htmlAll of the above just to say that Eliza
WATKINS and Harry STAPLETON may have had a daughter Chrissie
WATKINS. Being Harry's daughter would make Tom and Christina STAPLETON her uncle and aunt and their daughter Isabella Martha STAPLETON (aka the bride Ella) her first cousin.
I'm wondering if the Tina STAPLETON I mentioned in my previous post may have also used the name Chrissie (Christina?) WATKINS.
No proof. Just speculation :-)
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Have you considered starting a "look-up request" thread for the death notice of Harry STAPLETON d.9 Feb 1922 in Christchurch.
Death notices of the time seemed not to be as informative as those today but, short of purchasing the death certificate, it's the only way I can think of which might give a clue as to whether or not he is your Harry. Hopefully the death notice will say something like "son of the late Thomas and Martha".
EDIT:A possible connection in that Tom and Christina STAPLETON seem to be buried opposite Harry and Fanny STAPLETON at Sydenham Cemetery.
Regards
Beg