There is a 1922 death for a Harry STAPLETON buried in Sydenham Cemetery, Christchurch. His age at death gives him a birth year of 1858.
He shares the plot with a Fanny STAPLETON.
Thomas Stapleton (36), wife Martha (34), and children Tom (11), Everard (9), Harry (6), Ann (4) and Richard (2) arrived as assisted immigrants in 1865. This does suggest that the 1922 burial is the right one (possibly Fanny is a second wife, though).
Hi again...
Was at the library so checked out the NZ electoral rolls for Christchurch using ancestry
If the Harry STAPLETON (d.1922 buried at Sydenham Cemetery with Fanny STAPLETON d.1936) is your Harry with a second wife then they may be the Harry and Fanny STAPLETON listed in the 1911 and 1914 electoral rolls for Christchurch East. Listed at the same address (325 Gloucester Street) is Tina Stapleton, spinster.
She may be Harry's second daughter b.1884-85.
Or she may be Harry's unmarried sister, born in NZ post-1865 arrival of the STAPLETON family.
One thing in favour of her being Harry's daughter is that a child born in 1884-85 would not appear on the NZ electoral rolls until after 1905-06. Whereas Harry's sister would have been eligible for the electoral roll since 1893. The Tina STAPLETON listed on ancestry appears only on the 1911 and 1914 rolls.
Not sure what happened to her after 1914.
And not sure if Tina is short for Christina or Bettina etc of which there are a few listed on various rolls.
It's just speculation :-)
Regards
Beg