Don't people realise how much it hurts

[lennie13]

By the way andycand, which other message have i deleted? because this was the first time that i had used that option . Regards Caron.

[msr]

I wish the person I have contacted would do the same regarding my photos Caron.

Susan

[groom]

I think you've been unlucky Sue and just come across a name gatherer. The person I contacted last week and asked them to correct my father's information apologised and did so immediately.

[msr]

Very true Jan.

I contacted someone else who had some on her public tree and she removed them and apologised if she'd caused any offence, and she actually HAD connection by marriage with my grandmother.
I told her that she was welcome to the photos for herself, no problem there at all, just didn't want them publicly viewable.

[lennie13]

My problem was that i had invited a lady to view/share my private tree.Unfortunatley she copied a large amount of my tree and lots of photos onto her public tree!!!
I suppose it was  my own fault.

[msr]

I hope it wasn't the one with over 55000 people on her tree Lennie.

I know for a fact that I'm not the only one she's annoyed or upset.

[lennie13]

That thought did cross my mind.
Her tree is massive,loads of it appear to copied, with no new information on it.

[mofid42]

I no longer contact people who have massive trees after what happened to someone I know. Now I totally distrust that they are real trees being researched by genuine family historians
 
My friend contacted someone who had a tree with over 45,000 people listed. The male tree owner replied with a rather vague answer but insisted further contact be made through his e-mail address which he supplied.
 My friend wrote to him again using the e-mail address but the e-mail that came in response was flagged by her computer as phishing. Being rather an innocently trusting person and not very good with computers she replied but never heard from the man again.
Then a few days later her bank told her that her debit card had been abused. Luckily they had picked it up very quickly and she didn't loose any money but at the time she didn't put two and two together and tell the bank about the phishing e-mail.
Of course she can't be sure it had anything to do with the phishing e-mail but it does seem a huge coincidence if not!

Since she told me her story I've had people contact me with huge trees and they also have insisted future contact be made via e-mail rather than messages on the website......I just reply politely on the website..... don't want the same thing to happen to me!

[msr]

I've recently been contacted by someone who also has issues with a particular tree owner and her increasing collection of names, many with incorrect information.

I don't think I'm breaking any rules if I quote this message she received from the culprit:
"i report both the good & the bad - its called good reporting - i do not write the history nor do i make the history - if you are ashamed of your past that is not my problem "

This tree owner went on "this site allows me to block ratbags - i am going to block you"

So, I rather think that that person is not pursuing her own family history, but am unsure as to her agenda.

I don't know if the particular subscription site is at all interested in the feelings of those members who simply want to research their own family history, after all they do encourage membership at every turn, or if they are happy if the money continues to roll in.
I shall be thinking very hard before handing over another £100+ when renewal is due.
 

Note to Mods:    I apologise if this has overstepped the mark.