Confused

[aghadowey]

Your initial post did not mention the person (if the correct one) was abandoned as an infant but after hearing that detail it's not surprising they might not want any contact with their father's family.

At most all you can do at the moment is just send a message saying something like 'I'm sorry but please do get in touch if you should change your mind" and then leave it at that.

[rachelralph]

i totally agree with aghadowey. i think the best thing to do would be to email him again, and explain as kindly as you can that you dont want to drag up the past to much, but if he should ever want to talk to you that you are available.

if this guy is young then it might also be that he is in a difficult position with regards to how his mother will take the news. my own cousin in her 60's now can still not talk to her mother about the man who is her father, in fact she hasnt told her mum that her and me are in contact because of the hurt it may cause her mother.

hopefully one day this guy may get back in contact and want to get to know you, for now i would email him an apology for intruding and let him know you wont force the issue.

good luck

[JenB]

At most all you can do at the moment is just send a message saying something like 'I'm sorry but please do get in touch if you should change your mind" and then leave it at that.

I also agree, given the circumstances - either don't say anything, or send a simple message as suggested by aghadowey.

Redroger - talk of 'revenge' is rather silly 

[Ruskie]

His response was still rude. He should have either completely ignored Ray, or simply said that he was "not interested, please do not contact again."

It's not like any of these events in the family in the past were Ray's fault ... After all just because his father abandoned him doesn't mean the other members of the family approved of the father's actions ....

[rachelralph]

totally agree rustie the response was not how it should have been, sadly we arent all brought up with manners. 

[davidft]

his response was ....

"GO AWAY!"

I think you should respect his wishes and make no further contact.

[Redroger]

I also agree, given the circumstances - either don't say anything, or send a simple message as suggested by aghadowey.

Redroger - talk of 'revenge' is rather silly 

Jen You did of course have the advantage over me in that the circumstances were not mentioned until after I had made my light hearted posts, had I known I would have adopted a different line of argument.