Oh Dear, a dark secret discovered in a friend's tree

[Lisajj]

Honesty is always the best policy and remember, what has happened is history, it can't be changed and it makes people who they are.  Sometimes its a shock, but, things happen.

[Redroger]

Honesty is always the best policy and remember, what has happened is history, it can't be changed and it makes people who they are.  Sometimes its a shock, but, things happen.

Absolutely, and we shouldn't allow ourselves to be shocked by the past.

[Salty]

Honesty is best as just said.

Have just been doing some research for a friend myself and found a couple of things out about her and her mum.
Its not easy to tell them, but there are ways!!

I come from a long long line of No Dads dating back to the 1600s and well into Queen Victoria's strict era.

Salty

[RedMystic]

This is a fascinating thread. TX for starting it Tiger.

I stumbled over a new story in my tree late last week.

My grandma's grandparents (my 2x great grandparents) had a large family - 14 children. The youngest was "adopted".

I knew the adopted one was the son on my 2x great grandfather's sister. For some inane reason, I never asked how he ended up with my 2x great grandfather's brood. I just assumed that he joined them to come west for better opportunity.

Fancy my surprise last week when I received written confirmation that yes, he was the son of my 2x great grandfather's sister. Yes she had 14 children. This 'adopted' son in my branch was the youngest. Why adopted away?

Her husband would go away for months each year find work. She had an affair with a married neighbour. The two youngest sons (children 13 & 14) were likely not her husband's so the youngest went to my branch. The second youngest one went to an unrelated family.

Now riddle me this .... how in the world after having 12 children did she have enough energy & interest to have an affair & subsequently birth 2 more babies. 

[danuslave]

Husband away a lot - 12 children to care for - in need of TLC - helpful neighbour - one thing leads to another - twice 

Linda

[Deb D]

Now riddle me this .... how in the world after having 12 children did she have enough energy & interest to have an affair ..?

With 12 other children, when would she have had the time??  And, with that many people in the house ... where could it possibly happen, that somebody wouldn't notice??

[groom]

Now riddle me this .... how in the world after having 12 children did she have enough energy & interest to have an affair ..?

With 12 other children, when would she have had the time??  And, with that many people in the house ... where could it possibly happen, that somebody wouldn't notice??

Leave the eldest babysitting and pop next door to "borrow a cup of sugar" 

[Wiggy]

Just so!!   

[MargP]

Or back of the bike shed as we say in England