OK Mike finally came through with a little more info -  we now have the married name of the daughter Sarah.................maybe we can work backwards.....
http://www.rootschat.com/forum/index.php/topic,47875.0.html1871 census
71 (no address) Kensington London
Richard J Hickman age 39 Freehold and house proprietor b. St Marylebone 
SARAH E      "         age 38 B. New York
Walter RJ      "        age 12 City of London School b. Marylebone London
Herbert ?      "        age 8 Nottinghill Prep School b Marylebone
Reginald ?     "        age 6 Nottinghill Prep School
Elizabeth ME  "       age 3 St Marys Abbot Kensington
Jessie JH        "       age 1 St Marys Abbot Kensington
Mary Russell          age 22 Cook b. Hadenham Herts
Clard? Anne Alburg age 26 housemaid b. Busddon? Berks
Lucy Ann Bowden Nurse age 26? St Marylebone 
http://www.londonancestor.com/iln/illustrated.htminteresting site - even have City of London School and other things that may be of use !
How come I only get Charwomen and Bankrupts for my relatives....


Annie