I have forebears who were in NSW in that era ... the funeral notices never seem to mention the names of the wife/mother etc... There's separate notices from each of the adult sons, sons in law, uncle, Grandfather, their Lodge, etc but no female names mentioned in "mine" death notices from say around 1860 until early 1900's ....
In one instance a notice (for my lot) reads along the lines of "The Relatives and Friends of Master ....... ........, nephew of the relict of ......... ........... of Sydney ....." and there's not a morsel of a mention of the lady's given names at all...
Perhaps it was a "Victorian Era" thing...
Cheers, JM