Norrie,
I just have to say a BIG THANK YOU not just for me but my new found 2nd cousin (thanks to you).
I never knew she existed until you found the headstone of her GRANDFATHER my g.Uncle. -
She never knew the cause of his death or the reasons for it, as her Mother had married and moved away from her immediate family. We now communicate regularly although we are both way past retirement, we intend to meet up. (hopefully)
And most of all she now is settled in her mind, as to why her family left the close knit family behind them.

xin