Hello all!
I have been doing my research for about 6 moths now and although i had inclings of things i had never been able to confirm what I had suspected for a while until now... this is the story tell me what you think....
My grandfathers father died in prison when my grandfather was only 4 months old.
Upon his death his wife gathered up the children - she dumped two on my grandfathers grandparents (the dead mans folks) and she took one with her and fled.....
no one ever knew why she did that - however my grandfather grew up relatively happy in the care of his grandparents so allw as ok - however I know that he had a real hatred for his mum for soing what she did and never coming back to explain herself....
He had no contact with his older brother until one of my grandads aunts insitgated a meeting as she somehow had links all over the familymy grandads aunt was of course one of his grandparents children but she was more like a sister to him than an aunt!!! (Sorry if this is confusing!)
- my grandad and his bro sort of became friends yet they looked nothing alike. My grandfather and his sister were like peas in a pod, tall slim and had straight hair but the older brother was short, cobby and had lots of curly hair. My mum met the older brother when she was a child and clearly remembers him looking nothing like the other two...she always suspected he had not been a 'full' brother.
Years pass and I am researching the tree- I get intouch with a family member of the woman who abandoned her babies and we get chatting. It turned out that the older brother infact did not share a father with the other two -so mum was right all along.....we were elated to get this confirmation and to know that she took him with her because he was not a child of the dead man.
I get further into my research and discover that my grandfathers mother went on to have 4 more children with another man..... one child being born in December 1927.....
My grandfather was born in April of 1927.
This means she literally fell pregnant by another man just after the birth of my grandad when my great grandad was imprisoned....
so she had 2 kids in one year by two different men......she must have been sleeping with the other guy right after giving birth to my gramps or, i hate to say, was sleeping with him while pregnant with my gramps as it was seen as 'safe'.
I feel horrid about this - the circumstances in which my great grandfather died were awful and he would have needed her support at this time but since finding out about the other man and the baby - i feel quite hurt by it all.
I know that sounds silly because its not 'me' or about me but i feel let down that this woman could do such a thing at a time when her hubby needed her and she had literally just given birth to a baby..... i just cant comprehend it...
has any one else experienced this feeling of disappointment with a family member they never ever knew?? i feel like she hurt the family therefore she hurt me...
It goes deeper but just on the surface please tell me im not alone here!!!
