Hi Ballydw,thanks for the info,have looked at this puzzle from so many angles,but not getting anywhere.
The fact that Aileens death is put at 1940 in various trees,makes me wonder if the details are known to someone.As this was a British protestant military family,could be that her death or name details were changed deliberately, due to whayever took place,not unknown in some circles.
I never believe anything until I can prove it properly,was why had looked at sea deaths for earlier years.
Aileen, could of course just cleared off with another man leaving her children, going abroad.What about death in childbirth,have the Irish records been searched well.Eventually some clue will appear from someone or other .
Brionne.