*Newsflash*
While I'm waiting for the marriage certificate to arrive I've carried on digging ... as blokes do

I've found George Richardson (b.1846 Hastings) married to Jane McDermott (b.1849 Hastings)
I think I found they were married about 1865 ish.
They had 4 children that I can see ?
Patience (b.1867)
... now there's a strange 14 year age gap where normally they'd squeeze 10 more kids in

Thomas (b.1881 and a candidate for my g g grandfather)
William (b. 1882)
Maggie (b.1884)
I'm not sure who her father is

In the 1851 census as a 4 year old sh's living with her 2 uncles (David & John McDermott) and her grandparents (Martin & Jane McDermott)
Is her father and mother dead

I think this is my family line as my cousin's mum remembers hearing the name McDermott mentioned by my grandmother over 60 years ago as a family name !!!
Either a lucky guess or my genealogy is vastly improving !!