Hi Wozza
Here is the info from the West Sussex Record Office
First the marriages: both James Isted's are bachelors on marriages; the one who married Mary Betts is of West Hoathly, the one who married Mary Bysh is of East Grinstead; interestingly a Mary
Bysh witnessed the Isted/Betts marriage, makes me wonder if the two James are related in some way.
Of the baptisms for children of James and Mary in East Grinstead/West Hoathly between 1803 and 1830 only these contain any extra information:
West Hoathly
28 April 1822 Edward Isted son of James and Mary, Labourer of West Hoathly
East Grinstead
11 April 1813 Mary Isted daughter of James and Mary, Farmer of East Grinstead
25 Oct 1818 John Isted son of James and Mary, Farmer of East Grinstead
14 feb 1830 Frances Isted daughter of James and Mary, Farmer of Butlers Farm
Also found these burials
West Hoathly 8 Jul 1846 James Isted 75 of West Hoathly
East Grinstead Dec 30 1858 James Isted 81 Workhouse
East Grinstead Jan 15 1866 Mary Isted 81 East Grinstead
Hope this is of some help in your mission to sort out the two familes

Jan
