Hi,
I have some news for you. I won't say good because its sad but it does tell you what you want to know.
The main cemetery in Malta is the Addolorata Cemetery. It is mainly for civilians and still in use today. There are some military burials in there too. There is also Ta Braxia and a few military cemeteries. There are indexes for the various military cemeteries on:-
http://website.lineone.net/~stephaniebidmead/index.htmI think the cemetery you need to look at is Rinella Military Cemetery as there is the following burial listed. I think the cemetery is empty now as it seems that the remains were transferred to Kalkara Naval Cemetery in the 1970's and reinterred in a mass grave.
Mrs SMITH, the wife of Master Gunner Smith. They occupied quarters at the Lighthouse, Delimara. On Saturday, 18th, she was lighting a fire and poured benzin on it. There was an explosion and her clothes were immediately ablaze. Her husband rushed into the room and managed to extinguish the flames. She was taken to Cottonera Hospital where she died Tuesday, 21st, from the effects of shock. She left a husband and five young children.
So it seems that what you have been told is accurate and I am really sorry but I don't think her grave is there anymore

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I am not sure what is on the site of Rinella Military Cemetery now or if it is still the derelict cemetery. I will ask around and try to find out.
With regard to doing a Maltese family tree, I am glad I don't have to as when I have tried to access records it has been to try and help other people. My roots are in mainly in Manchester and Lancashire.
Luzzu
