Roger:
First of all, thank you VERY MUCH for rooting out the original ship's manifest from the FALCON. Wow!!! So cool to have that document! Once again, RootsChat rocks!
I'm very curious about some of the points you bring up:
Are you saying that Jane Ross is shown as from Scotland on the marriage record? I've looked at the marriage record for Burke Sutherland and Jane Ross's marriage, but I don't see that association.
And yes, I guess it is entirely possible that Jane Ross is Jessie Sutherland's guardian, and that Jessie's father is dead. Tragic for Jessie but that would help to narrow down all the "John Sutherlands b. Scotland circa 1800" I've been looking for.
Boy I wish I could find a military record for Captain in the Army John Sutherland. I've looked but so far cannot find such a thing.
My cousin has looked at only the front of the portrait: no signature. Her sister now has the portrait and is in DC, and I will press her to bring it in to an expert to have it examined.
Your observation that James and Jessie left Ireland in 1850 while Lady Anne Caulfield was still alive, at 70 years old, is very interesting. In that scenario, I think it very likely that there was a very direct connection, friendship or bloodwise, between the Lady and James and Jessie. It's April, J&J are young, getting married, and everyone knows they are leaving for the states. "Oh, going to America? Well here, I'm an old lady: I don't need this dress anymore and your lovely wife looks great in it." Or, maybe the Lady had made a gift to the bride before her marriage with a wedding dress. Who knows? "And take this portrait and this ring. I've got others and you've always liked them."
James and Jessie are shown on the manifest carrying two "boxes"; steamer trunks I assume. It seems probable that Lady Anne's articles were in Jessie's trunk: a dress, portrait, and siloughettes at least (Jessie was probably wearing the ring). Could be that Jessie's trunk was the one my great grandmother Jessie opened to show Lady Anne's dress to my aunt back in the 1930's. (My aunt remembers the trunk as a typical steamer style: rounded lid, tray on top). But when Jessie lifted the top tray out of the trunk, a cloud of dust filled the air as the dress had disintegrated.
Speculation, perhaps, but not without merit. I love how things are coming into focus.
Much appreciation,
Joe