Am I asking too much

[mare]

... I was just trying to do the same Nick, having just logged in again ... and now will have to look at both pics yet again with your guesses ... I thought the clean shaven one with the lighter trouser in second pic was the youngest 

... the 3 who are close in age, b 55,57,58 are a hard call ...

[mare]

.... It's taken a lot of flicking as you say and several jottings.  From your guess then Nick, you have the individual as no 2 in the first group ... swapped places with Michelle's guess at no 4 in OP ... and think that might well be the right order ...

[Finley 1]

here you go for comparison

xin
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[barbaras daughter]

It is VERY difficult isn't it?  I agree with you mare that the boy with the light coloured trousers in the photo of when they were younger is the youngest. 

By jove I think I've got it!  Thanks to Nick.  Yes, I do believe the following of the first group photo I sent through:
    L to R  (or another way of looking at it)Youngest to oldest
Man 1 = youngest                                             Youngest = Man standing left        )
Man 2 = 2nd eldest                                          4th eldest = Man standing right      )
Man 3 = eldest                                                 3rd eldest = Man seated right         )  Same as Nick
Man 4 = 2nd youngest                                     2nd eldest = Man seated left           )
Man 5 = 3rd eldest                                                  Eldest = Man in the middle        )

So.................. this now means that Man 2 IS the man in the photo of the man on his own!!!!!!!

Now with all this in mind, I with "attack" the photo of the boys when they were younger & see what I come up with there.

Thank you all for your help.  It really does help to have others to discuss these things with.  I'm a happy little chicky now

Bye for now,
Michelle