Wedding a week after mother's death?

[LizzieW]

I have the case of an unmarried son who was still living with his mother in his 40s.  About a month after she died, he married

It was really bugging me that I couldn't remember who this man was, but now I've got it.   I didn't remember the full story either.

He was probably the son of my 2 x g.uncle, born before his mother and my 2 x g.uncle were married.  He was originally shown as having his mother's surname (she was a widow), but on later census, my 2 x g.uncle's married name was added to his name and this is the name under which he married.

Well, his mother died in December 1914 aged 61 and he didn't marry until June 1918 when he would have been aged 31. 

His mother's 2nd husband (my 2 x g.uncle) died in 1902 and she married for a 3rd time in 1905.  On the 1911 census, her 3rd husband aged 60 was in Sculcoates Workhouse, but she was living at home with her son.

Lizzie

ps.  I still think I must have another ancestor who married soon after his mother died, as I seem to remember I found him on the 1911 census with his new wife.

[Jeuel]

If the banns had been called, time booked off work etc I don't see that you'd cancel.  Life goes on, even though we are often grieving for others.  In fact the family would perhaps already all be together for the funeral and it made sense to stay till the wedding.

I would have thought getting married and having your husband as an emotional support at a painful time would be a good thing.

[Plummiegirl]

This is not that unusual, if you think about the costs incurred for even the most basic marriage, they probably had to go ahead as they could not afford to put off and lose any money/deposits paid.

[D_P]

My auntie married within a month of her Dad dying in the mid 1990s. She thought about cancelling it but after the sadness and stress of my Grandad being ill and then dying it was nice to have a happier family moment. I believe he would also have wanted her to go ahead with it and although it was a slightly subdued wedding there wasn't really an air of sadness hanging over it.