Hi
Herbert, born 1837 , St Helens, Worcestershire, was Herbert JOHN Hill
He too , joined the Military.
On the 1881 census, he is described as a Late Captain , 7th Regt, Military Tutor / born St Helens Worcester
Residence is High Street, Wargrave ,Berkshire
RG11 1312 10 13
he moves to London, and is there in 1891 and 1901, 10 years later , he is in Shropshire.
Another possibility of course, is that Arthur did set up home with another lady. It was more common than we like to think. My own grandmother married, stating she was a widow, when in fact her first husband, was alive and well, and living round the corner , with his parents.....
I wonder if Arthur died abroad ? Will have a look
JeannieR