thanks for all your suggestions. Violet is on the 1881 census as Maud Gribble -nurse child. On the Marriage certificate, obviously there is no father listed as she was illigitimate. I know her mother was Eliza Gribble, who was a Head Nurse at a Mental Hospital, she retired on a nurses pension, and died in the 1920's. She's buried in a family plot. On her Death Certificate, my Grandfather Thomas Bale is listed as her Grandson.
What confuses me is Thomas is born on the 23rd march 1890, to Thomas Henry and Rosa Bale. and in our family Bible, my Grandfathers birthday is that Date...So we have undisputed links to both ladies.
Sue